I’ve decided the medicine we offer at the Reset is called Takecareyodamnself®. Here’s our medicine’s directions: DO (physical) THINGS YOU LOVE YOUR OWN WAY AND DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF FOR NOT DOING IT JUST LIKE or AS GOOD AS SOMEONE ELSE AND ALSO USE EXERCISE TO PRACTICE HANDLING HARD THINGS. Because HOW YOU HANDLE HARD THINGS IN THE STUDIO IS HOW YOU HANDLE THEM OUTSIDE THE STUDIO.
Most days, we finish class with an exercise that is very hard. We do the exercise one time. Sometimes I set a time interval or suggest a number of repetitions, but usually I just say, “Do it until you think you’re done. Then do one more. Then you’re done.” I include the finisher and program it that way on purpose. My purpose? To help us 1. Practice laughing off D-R-A-M-A around trying new things and 2. Practice coaching ourselves through something new/hard/scary and 3. Celebrating after.
Oh. You weren't perfect? You did not exhibit the cardiovascular endurance of a sprinter? Your muscles fatigued over time and exertion? SHOCKER. How about just feeling curious and interested when you try something new, and see if you can be kind to yourself AT THE SAME TIME YOU expose yourself to a challenging experience. Oh, you want to wait to try things until you feel “confident enough” to expose yourself? Okay, but that's a waiting game that could go on for a while.
I believe the world needs us right now to love ourselves through hard things because there are so many things that need to get done. And coming up with chuzpah takes practice. Come to the Reset to grease the wheels of being brave. Let's ugly laugh/cryroan/celebrate together while trying something hard and then give each other 125 high fives after. And then let's go out in the world and do the same. damn. thing